just 2 dudes and an anime???


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senpai-kun

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Basically the backstory goes like this....

I was watching honey & clover one day and a buddy was over. He is into anime too, but we had never watched anime together before, just seemed odd somewhat to do so well other than DBZ or Naruto a couple of times. He was playing games and I was watching H&C on the pc while waiting for the rest of our friends to head out. He started watching a couple of eppy's and liked it.

Couple of days later, my roomate had her girlfriends over watching chick flicks and what not. So it was me and my buddy alone in my room watching tv. He was like let's finish up that anime we were watching the other day. I was hesitant at first but eventually I gave in since I wanted to watch the last 4 episodes that night alone, but didn't know when everyone was leaving the apartment.

But after a while I noticed his eyes started watering up a little, I didn't say anything at the moment because I really just wanted to get through the final episodes, I could make fun of him later. But I guess he noticed I saw him and that is when things got uncomfortable.

He started to talk alot, commenting on every little detail of what was going on. But it was in a lumping throat kinda voice w/fake laughter when there was no funny moments. This went on for about 5 minutes. And I had enough, he had made it very uncomfortable so I told him to leave that watching anime alone with a dude is weird.

Couple of days later he asked could he come over one night to finish watching the last two episodes and i told him no...just go download them yourself. The story came up among our friends, and suprisingly to me...some said I was in the wrong I disagreed and told them to get out of my apartment...So basically is watching animes w/just two dudes alone weird/gay??? I think it is and I'm gonna stick with that...glad I got that off my chest.
 
i don't think it's wierd... maybe just watch more comedy/action anime
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Just what kind of animes were you people watching?!!
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If you tell some more about the animes you watched, I could give an opinion...
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Solarwing-san it was Honey & Clover...

Plus one last thing...never had a problem watching anime all alone w/the girl at all didn't matter what genre of anime either....just 2 dudes alone in a room though....
 
Well it is your friend right so it should be oke... unless he is a gay hehe but ah well. Watching anime together should be desame as watching a movie, you can get emotional while watching an romantic movie or drama, it's desame with anime and it doesn't matter with who you're watching it. And if you are feeling uncomfortable... nothing we can do about it, only there's nothing to be ashamed of or something like that, just let the guy go.
 
QUOTE (senpai-kun @ Jul 16 2006, 12:56 AM) Solarwing-san it was Honey & Clover...

Plus one last thing...never had a problem watching anime all alone w/the girl at all didn't matter what genre of anime either....just 2 dudes alone in a room though....
Well I dont think its anything gay....your friend just seems to be a rather sensitive person....perhaps he's the emotional type of guy....Besides he's your friend and I dont think that he would have hidden anything from you, whether he was gay or something like that...

I say that you are in the wrong just like your friends told you...in fact I believe you may be losing a friend if you act like you are doing...you should just try to understand your friend, its alright to get emotional sometimes and yep as you said later you could make fun of him...
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Well I watch anime with guys often. I don't find anything wrong there. Usually we watch the more comedy or action styles ones but every now and then we watch a teary one. But yeah maybe talking about the anime puts you off, we usually stay quiet and watch.

If someone does look like they're getting emotional there's no problems. Friends accept each other and try to understand as much as they can. Of course we tease each other lightly about getting teary or something. But man, I think kicking your friend our during the series so bluntly is harsh. You should've let the ep finish and discretely tell him to leave like say you're sleepy or something.

And watching anime alone with a girl provides opportunities for a variety of enjoyable experiences.
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Terrible stuff dood, I never watch anime with my buddies, well okay I give up, we watched Ichigo 100% at school. We were like 10-12 people gathered up in a corner watching Ichigo 100% on my psp, damn it was FUN! We kept on laughing and everyone were wondering what we were doing and all that. I hope that is not bluntly perverted or anything, i just happen to copy some episodes into psp and carry it to school, they on the other hand, just happen to see me and thought it'd be fun to watch some jap anime for a change. For some of them it was a first time in a long time to see anime period, whether it was dub jap sub eng or dub eng... good times... I hope we get another chance to do that later on... i really love watching ecchi stuff in school!

YES I AM A PERVERT SO WHAT!!


BTW, watching an anime serie with a buddy or two isn't weird or gay at all. unless its content includes gay stuff, then in that case, if you two enjoyed it, I'd hate to say, but that'd be rather weird than anything else...
 
Not losing a friend or any nonsense like that...he is still my boy and all...but now after seeing these comments, I don't think it is possible to really understand the akwardness unless...

A - your a guy

and

B - you are alone by yourselves, not in a group, & the other dude is getting emotional to the point, that he is trying to cover it up by continous random lumpy throat comments, and misplaced laughter....man i still can't get over that....

But I guess I might have to take a loss for this one, since nobody seems to agree w/me on this one....or I'll just continue believing I am right and everyone else is wrong lol it feels bestest that way...

Oh and Noob-sama, did the same thing watched Ichigo 100% in group setting it was a laugh riot for those who hadn't seen it before...though oddly enough they were mainly girls hmm...and it just felt right...especially when...umm well nevermind...
 
QUOTE (senpai-kun @ Jul 15 2006, 06:00 PM) Not losing a friend or any nonsense like that...he is still my boy and all...but now after seeing these comments, I don't think it is possible to really understand the akwardness unless...

A - your a guy

and

B - you are alone by yourselves, not in a group, & the other dude is getting emotional to the point, that he is trying to cover it up by continous random lumpy throat comments, and misplaced laughter....man i still can't get over that....

But I guess I might have to take a loss for this one, since nobody seems to agree w/me on this one....or I'll just continue believing I am right and everyone else is wrong lol it feels bestest that way...

Oh and Noob-sama, did the same thing watched Ichigo 100% in group setting it was a laugh riot for those who hadn't seen it before...though oddly enough they were mainly girls hmm...and it just felt right...especially when...umm well nevermind...
I never said there wasn't a single girl in the group in which we watched ichigo, they werent just as many, or rather i didnt want them to find out we were watching such thing, if they did, they'd think of us as a bunch of pervert bastards. lol still it was some good stuff, the best part was when we were caught watching it by few girls, though they LAWLed with us, later on they made fun of us and LOLed at us... :/ meanies.

I completely understand how you feel, that is how exaclty a straight person should feel like after being irritated by another person, specially a close friend, doin' all those stuff to cover up the emotions. Good thing i dont watch honey and clover. ecchi/comedy really are the BEST
 
Im a guy who get really emotional over anime (not honey and clover though)
I'll admit I don't really like to cry infront of others though....



but i dont think you needed to be that mean to him....
us men have emotions....

if a male friend of mine cried at anime I wouldnt care...I do the same thing anyway..
 
Umm yeah man, first off I am a guy. And yes I've been in the situation. One anime of the animes me and my buddy watched was Suzuka.
 
wow it seems like u really like to throw people out your apartment lol
i guess the real question is how long are u going to keep your friends with that attitude
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but anyway no i dont think its gay, just very very weird cause he was crying
wow is that uncomfortable
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No really gay so much... Like when ur playing an H game with 4 dudes over your shoulder. Its more of a movie theatere experience than anyting else
 
QUOTE (noob @ Jul 16 2006, 07:09 AM)
BTW, watching an anime serie with a buddy or two isn't weird or gay at all. unless its content includes gay stuff, then in that case, if you two enjoyed it, I'd hate to say, but that'd be rather weird than anything else...
I would have to agree on this one... I'm not a guy and all but I grew up in an environment where guys dominate the house and I can empathize *I'm not gay either*...

Perhaps you were just misinterpretting the whole thing since we are at an era where gays suddenly pop out of nowhere... Don't worry... I believe your friend isn't one of them...
 
I don't understand why a man showing emotion disturbs you so. People are emotional, your friend was really in to the story, you should be understanding about other people having emotions; just because society doesn't seem to accept men being emotional doesn't mean they aren't. In fact, I find that societal repression of male emotions causes violent outbreaks, and often is damaging to the male ability to function or relate to others in general.

Furthermore, what does your friend showing emotion have to do with being gay? That doesn't make sense. Being gay is also, in no way, a negative thing; but you ask if "it is gay" as if it would be the end of the world if it were.

To wrap up, I also don't understand how watching ANYTHING together could be considered gay, unless it was specifically designed for a gay audience (such as male on male pornography). I haven't seen this show, but it sounds like a drama. Drama's are emotional rollercosters by their nature. They are made to be "realistic" within the scope of human emotions. So... How are watching dramas different from watching action flicks? Argueable action flicks have a lot more in the way of naked male flesh, does this make it more "gay"?

Your friend is your friend, be accepting of him.
 
An simple advice would be try not to watch anime of romance stories with another dude, and pick something alongs the lines action or comedy. I understand what you were trying to say...when I watch some anime, I would get emotional and sometimes be put into tears...and I can imagine if that happens when watching an anime with a male friend, it would be very awkward. That why I believe watching romance type anime (for a guy) it should done alone, or with female friends or your girlfriend.

If you explain to your friend and tell him to imagine "if I get emotional and tears start coming out when we watch an anime together, you would feel weird and uncomfortable too right?" Hopefully he should understand and agrees with you.
 
ill answer the question with a different question..

would you go to the movies alone with a guy?


therein lies your answer.


warning: incoming psychobabble!

anyway, it seems that you're turned off by your friend's neediness and persistence in invading your anime time - something you've classified as "personal time."

you were hesitant from the beginning, but because you may have felt it rude to say no, or cuz you were a lazy bastard and didnt wanna go through the "well why not let me watch it?" -- or maybe couldnt think fast enough to analyze all this within the timeframe you had to give your consent.. you just said okay, and thus was in what's technically called a "pissy mood" for the whole duration of the anime viewing.

that coupled with your homophobic tendencies, your need to maintain a dominant male persona, and your incapacity to express/share/accept displays of (or possibly even fully feel) emotions... you were put in a very awkward position (ignoring the fact that you created most of this situation in your head).

so in effect, something that may have been harmless to someone else was probably extremely awkward and maybe painful for a person who may have underlying emotional issues.

my recommendation is to either clean up your psyche, or to stop having friends altogether. your call.

..or maybe you're just ghey and dont wanna admit it
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I agree with what windfinder and squire said....they both are right in my opinion and I totally support their point of views...

Thats all I have to say...
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